Allah Made Father As Wali (province) On His Daughter

Force not your daughters into marriage when they have desired independence, in order that you may make a gain in the goods of this worldly life. Surat An-Nūr (The Light), Ayat 33

Statistics have shown that a large majority of victims are Muslim. However, Islam teaches that consent from both man and woman is a must before a marriage can take place. The Qur'an states “O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion...” (4:19).

The Sahih al-Bukhari, one of the most revered sources of hadith (Islamic practice) amongst Islamic scholars, reports the Prophet Muhammed (Peace Be Upon Him) as saying: "The widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until her order is obtained, and the virgin girl shall not be married until her permission is obtained." (Bukhari, 67:42).

The next chapter of the Sahih al-Bukhari states: "When a man gives his daughter in marriage and she dislikes it, the marriage shall be repudiated" (Bukhari, 67:43), with further hadith providing examples of the Prophet Muhammed (Peace Be Upon Him) cancelling such marriages in which the daughter's consent was not sought.

It is not permissible for a guardian to be stubborn about the marriage of a female under his care, or to prevent her from marrying someone she wants to marry if he is compatible with her. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry (your female relative under your care) to him, for if you do not do that there will be fitnah (tribulation) in the land and much corruption.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi

you have the choice of whether to stay or not. Seek guidance from Allaah (by praying istikhaarah). If you agree to stay in this marriage then all well and good, but if you do not accept to stay with your husband, then you have the right to seek annulment of the marriage, because it took place without your consent.

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that a virgin girl came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and told him that her father had married her off against her objections. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave her the choice. Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2096

The majority of scholars are of the view that if a woman is married off without her consent, then the marriage contract is invalid, because it is a forbidden contract which cannot be validated. This is the view of the Shaafa’is and Hanbalis. The view of the Hanafis, which was also narrated in one report from Ahmad, is that the contract is dependent upon the woman’s acceptance. If she gives her consent then it is valid, otherwise she may annul it.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, concerning the matter of a father forcing his daughter to marry: It is haraam for a man to force his daughter to marry a man whom she does not want to marry, and what is haraam cannot be validated or implemented, because implementing it or validating it goes against the prohibition that has been narrated.  When sharee’ah forbids a matter, then we should not be involved in it or do it. If we validate it, that means that we have becomes involved in it and done it, and we have made it equivalent to the contracts that are permitted in sharee’ah.

Based on this, the correct view is that the marriage arranged by the father to a man whom his daughter does not want as a husband is an invalid marriage, and the contract is invalid, and should be examined by the court.
See al-Fataawa, page 760


A forced marriage is not an issue of religion, but it is a cultural practice that violates your right as a woman and as a Muslim. The act of forcing someone to marry is in fact an act that is against the practices and teachings of Islam.
Yahya Al Noor

Rights Of Women In Islam حقوق المرأة في الإسلام

Inside of my mother’s womb

First time I start to breath my heart beats inside of you

First time I take my food it’s also inside of you

You carried me for nine months Inside your womb

We become one when our hearts beats together

For a short time you had my body inside of you

You carried my belly Inside your belly too.

And now, though I have your heart in my heart

I feel your soul Inside my soul

You and I connected with a cord 

When time I’m inside your womb

A special rope that bond us together

Love that we shared start on your womb

By Maryam Aguilar

Benefits Of Breast Feeding

The idea of using the bottle in place of breastfeeding would definitely be unusual eighty years ago! However, now women have to be persuaded away from using the bottle, and take to breast-feeding.

Factors such woman wanting to pursue their career shortly after giving birth; the onset of pain when feeding; or not having the confidence to preserver with breast-feeding have contributed to this decline.

Many Medical experts have always encouraged mothers to breast-feed. They have identified a whole host of benefits in terms of health, intelligence and emotional for both the mother and child.

Benefits to the Mother

• It’s convenient and cheaper for your budget.
• It helps you to loose excess weight.
• Suckling produces Oxytocin, which causes the womb to contract to its pre-birth size.
• The risk of producing breast cancer is reduced, which is further reduced for every child that is breast feed and the longer the period of breastfeeding.

Benefits to the Child

• Breast fed babies are at an advantage, since suckling strengthens their jaws and aids in their transition from milk to solids. It also aids in their speaking.
• Breast milk is healthier! Colostrum (the first type of milk produced by the breast) is packed with rich nutrients, protein and antibodies acting as a boost for the child’s underdeveloped immune system.
• Antibodies which formula milk is void of, offer protection from infections.
• Breast milk is higher in vitamin D and E and research has shown that breast milk is two and a half times more effective in preventing rickets.
• Breast milk contains more minerals; some of these are not found in formula milk, such as selenium and chromium. Selenium is an essential immune booster, whilst Chromium helps maintain a balance in the blood sugar levels. Minerals such as calcium, iron, zincand Manganese from breast milk are more absorbable than those in formula milk.
• Unlike formula milk, breast milk helps to establish healthy gut bacteria such as Bifido. These bacteria safeguard the baby’s digestive tract from harmful invading bacteria and inhibit the development of colic and eczema.
• obesity is less common in breast-fed babies compared to their formula fed counterparts.
• Breast milk makes brainier babies! Higher levels of the fat DHA, essential in developing the brain, are found in breast milk. Research has shown breast fed babies score 6-10 points higher in IQ tests than their formula fed counterparts.
  
  
  by Muhammad Yahya Mehmood (yahya alnoor) from  Healthy Muslims

Love Of Dove’s

Last Friday I heard the khutba'ah from Holy city Mecca, it’s a very important note on society and it's still on my mind.

The main ingredients of good society is successful marriage and the Immam gave very important advice.

He said it’s really very important whom you choose as your life partner so choose wisely and don't just look at beauty which pleases you but also look at the character.

Never a man or women bind in marriage if they don't like each other or if any one of them have any objection.

For a successful marriage one should look at the good in each other and stop arguing with each other look at the similarities and lead the life.

The best thing for a man or women could do is get married.
This was really a beautiful khutba'ah I got only few points for you though you may read it many times but I'm sharing it as I can't stop myself.

"A piece of land is turned into garden after many efforts such is a marriage so do your best to turn it into a garden whose fragrance will guide you to Jannah Insha'Allah."

The Prophet salAllahu"alayhi wasallam said "Whoever has married has completed half of his religion; therefore let him fear Allah in the other half "Bayhaqi

By Faiza Al Noor

What are women's rights in Islam?

In a truely Islamic society women have the following rights in Islam:

1. The right and duty to obtain education.
   
   
2. The right to have their own independent property.
   
   
3. The right to work to earn money if they need it.
   
   
4. Equality of reward for equal deeds.
   
   
5. The right to express their opinion and be heard.
   
   
6. The right to provisions from the husband for all her needs and more.
   
   
7. The right to negotiate marriage terms of her choice.
   
   
8. The right to obtain divorce from her husband, even on the grounds that she simply can't stand him...(pls note that God deeply frowns upon divorce as a solution unless there is hardly any other alternative but it does not mean that men have more right to divorce their wives than women do)
   
   
9. The right to keep all her own money...
   (she is not responsible to maintain any relations)
   
   
10. The right to get sexual satisfaction from her husband.
    
    
11. Custody of their children after divorce.
    
    
12. To refuse any marriage that does not please them and more...

by Rani Kiran ref: OQC group

Muslim women's achievements in field of knowledge

The Ideal Muslimah

The gates of knowledge are open to the Muslim woman, And she may enter which ever of them she chooses so long as this does not go against her feminine nature, but develops her mind and enhances her emotional growth and maturity. We find that history is full of prominent examples of remarkable women who sought knowledge and became highly proficient.

Foremost among them is the Mother of the Believers `A'ishah (May Allah be pleased with her), who was the primary source of hadith and knowledge of the sunnah, and was the first faqihah in Islam when she was still a young woman no more than nine years of age.

Imam al-Zuhri said: "If the knowledge of `A'ishah were to be gathered up and compared to the knowledge of all the other wives of the Prophet (PBUH) and all other women, `A'ishah's knowledge would be greater.

Her knowledge and deep understanding were not restricted only to matters of religion; she was equally distinguished in poetry, literature, history and medicine, and other branches of knowledge that were known at that time. The faqih of the Muslims

Urwah ibn al-Zubayr was quoted by his son Hisham as saying:

"I have never seen anybody more knowledgeable in fiqh or medicine or poetry than `A'ishah."

`A'ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) had a curious mind and was always eager to learn. Whenever she heard about something she did not know, she would ask about it until she understood it. Her closeness to the Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Up On Him) meant that she was like a vessel full of knowledge

Imam Bukhari reports from Abu Mulaykah that `A'ishah, the wife of the Prophet (peace Be Up On Him) never heard anything that she did not know, but she would keep going over it until she understood it.

The Prophet (Peace Be Up On Him) said

"Whoever is brought to account will be punished."

`A'ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) said

"I said, But does Allah (SWT) not say ( Soon his account will be taken by an easy reckoning') (Qur'an 84:8)"

He said, "That refers to al-`ard (when everyone is brought before Allah (SWT) on the Day of Judgement); but whoever is examined in detail is doomed."

In addition to her great knowledge, `A'ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) was also very eloquent in her speech. When she spoke, she captured the attention of her audience and moved them deeply.

This iswhat made al-Ahnaf ibn Qays say:

"I heard the speeches of Abu Bakr, `Umar, `Uthman, `Ali and the khulafa' who came after them, but I never heard any speech more eloquent and beautiful than that of `A'ishah."

Musa ibn Talhah said:

"I never saw anyone more eloquent and pure in speech than A'ishah."

A'ishah, the other wives of the Prophet (PBUH), the daughter of Sa`id ibn al-Musayyab, Fatimah al-Samarqandi and other famous women scholars were not something unique or rare among Muslim women. There were innumerable learned women, who studied every branch of knowledge and became prominent in many fields.

The modern Muslim woman, looking at the magnificent heritage of women in Islamic history, is filled with the desire for knowledge, as these prominent women only became famous and renowned throughout history by virtue of their knowledge. Their minds can only be developed, and their characters can only grow in wisdom, maturity and insight, through the acquisition of useful, beneficial and correct knowledge.

Sexual rights in Islam

In the name of Allah the Most Gracious the Most Merciful

In Islam men and women have rights over one another. These rights extend to every part of marriage, even the sexual relations. Both men and women have rights in this department and I will talk about both the men and the woman's rights.

First lets talk about the womens rights because many people think women are second class citizens in Islam and have no rights, sadly even some Muslims think this way. But that is simple not true. A women has the right to enjoy sexual relations with her husband just as much as a man does.

Imaam al-Bukhaari reported from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas, who said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘O ‘Abd-Allah, have I not heard that you fast all day and stand all night in prayer?’ I said, ‘Yes, O Messenger of Allaah.’ He said: ‘Do not do that. Fast and break your fast, stand in prayer and sleep. For your body has rights over you, your eyes have rights over you, and your wife has rights over you.’” In the commentary on this hadeeth, it says: “The husband should not exhaust himself in worship to the extent that he becomes too weak to fulfil her rights by having intercourse with her and by earning a living.” (Fath al-Bari)

It is also the wife’s right that her husband should spend his nights with her. Ibn Qudaamah al-Hanbali said: “If he has a wife, he should spend one night in four with her, so long as he has no excuse.” (Al-Mughni, 7/28; Kashf al-Qinaa’, 3/144).

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said: “It is obligatory for the husband to have intercourse with his wife as much as is needed to satisfy her, so long as this does not exhaust him physically or keep him away from earning a living… If they dispute over this matter, the judge should prescribe more in the way of intercourse just as he may prescribe more in the way of spending.” (Al-Ikhtiyaaraat al-Fiqhiyyah min Fataawa Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, p. 246)

Sharee’ah also requires that a wife be protected from immorality by means of her husband having intercourse with her, as much as is needed to satisfy her and to provide this protection. But there is no way that this can be stated in terms of a specific period of time, such as four months, or more, or less. It should be defined according to the wife’s needs and her husband’s ability to fulfil her rights… All of this applies in normal circumstances, when the husband is present and living with his wife.

If the husband is absent from his wife because he is travelling for a legitimate purpose or other legitimate excuse, in this case the husband should try not to be absent from his wife for too long.

The husband is obliged to treat his wife in a kind and reasonable manner. Part of that kind and reasonable treatment is intercourse, which he has to do. The majority of scholars set the time limit beyond which it is not permissible for the husband to forego intercourse at four months, but the correct view is that there is no time limit; the husband should have intercourse with his wife according to what satisfies her.

Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Intercourse is obligatory upon the man if he has no excuse. This was also the view of Maalik. Al-Mughni, 7/30

Al-Jassaas said:
He (the husband) is obliged to have intercourse with her, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“…so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married)…”[al-Nisa’ 4:129]
meaning, neither divorcing her so that she can marry another or leaving her without a husband because he is not fulfilling his duty of having intercourse with her.
Ahkaam al-Qur’aan, 1/374


Now lets move on to the mans right.

One of the rights that the husband has over his wife is that he should be able to enjoy her (physically). If he marries a woman and she is able to have intercourse, she is obliged to submit herself to him according to the contract, if he asks her. That is after he gives her the immediate mahr, and gives her some time – two or three days, if she asks for that – to sort herself out, because that is something that she needs, and because that is not too long and is customary.

If a wife refuses to respond to her husband’s request for intercourse, she has done something haraam and has committed a major sin, unless she has a valid shar’i excuse such as menses, obligatory fasting, sickness, etc.

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘When a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he went to sleep angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3065; Muslim, 1436)

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means” [al-Nisaa’ 4:34]

‘Ali ibn Abi Talhah said, narrating from Ibn ‘Abbaas: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women” means, they are in charge of them, i.e., she should obey him in matters of obedience that Allaah has enjoined upon her, and obey him by treating his family well and taking care of his wealth. This was the view of Muqaatil, al-Saddi and al-Dahhaak.(Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 1/492)